Let’s be honest. Most of us like need control.

Especially when life has felt totally out of control—like when cancer hit and the ground shifted beneath your feet. You didn’t choose that diagnosis. You didn’t choose the fatigue, the uncertainty, the scanxiety. You didn’t choose any of it.

And it happened anyway.

But here’s something that might help you feel a little better—and a little less powerless: you don’t have to control the outcome to reclaim your power.

You just have to control your input.

Your choices matter. They shape your environment, your energy, your mindset. But they don’t guarantee a specific result. And when you’ve already done all the “right” things—lived healthy, made sacrifices, checked every box—getting slapped with cancer can feel deeply unfair.

It might even make you wonder, why bother?

Here’s why.

Because life isn’t a math equation. It’s not “if I do this, then I’ll definitely get that.”

It’s more like, “If I show up aligned with my values… if I set boundaries that protect my energy… if I fuel my body, mind, and spirit… then I increase the odds of getting what I want—even if I can’t control the outcome.”

And that’s what you can control. The inputs. The choices. The things that shift the odds in your favor.

So when the fear creeps in—about work, health, money, relationships—come back to this:

What’s the next right choice I can make, no matter the outcome?

Because your power doesn’t come from controlling everything.

It comes from controlling your choices. Your actions. Your responses. The things that influence—but don’t guarantee—an outcome.

And when you truly understand that, everything feels lighter and easier. Even cancer.

And you don’t have to do it alone. I’m here for you.

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