What are you holding onto that is holding you back?

It’s a question that digs deep, one that you might be avoiding because the answer could shake things up in ways you’re not ready for.

But here’s the truth: holding on to the familiar, even when it’s hurting you, is often more comfortable than letting go.

This is because your subconscious brain codes familiar as safe.

Even when it’s draining your energy, affecting your health, and keeping you stuck in a cycle of exhaustion and frustration.

Let’s be honest. We all have things we cling to out of fear.

Fear of change, fear of the unknown, fear that letting go might mean we lose control—or worse, fail.

Maybe it’s a job that no longer serves you, but the thought of leaving sends you spiraling into panic.

Or a relationship that’s more about convenience than connection, but the idea of being alone feels terrifying.

But ask yourself: Is holding on really safer?

Is it really worth sacrificing your health, your happiness, and your peace of mind?

The truth is, these things you’re clinging to might be the very things keeping you from the life you truly want.

They might be the invisible chains that are holding you back from your potential, from reclaiming your life and finding the balance you desperately crave.

It’s time to face those fears.

Start small—identify one thing you’re holding onto that you know isn’t serving you. It could be a limiting belief, like the idea that your worth is tied to your work, or the belief that asking for help is a sign of weakness.

These thoughts are powerful, but they’re not facts.

They’re just stories you’ve told yourself, and stories can be rewritten.

Take a deep breath. Imagine what your life could look like if you let go of what’s holding you back. Picture the freedom, the energy, the joy that could fill the space that fear currently occupies. Yes, it’s scary. But it’s also liberating.

You don’t have to do it all at once.

Start with one small step—maybe it’s setting a boundary at work or speaking your truth in a relationship.

Notice how it feels to release that grip, even just a little.

That’s where your power lies—in the courage to let go, to trust that you’re capable of navigating whatever comes next.

Remember, holding on to what’s holding you back isn’t keeping you safe—it’s keeping you stuck.

And you deserve so much more than that.

So, what’s one thing you can let go of today? One thing that’s been holding you back for far too long? Letting go might just be the key to unlocking the life you’ve been dreaming of.

Now before you make any big moves, there’s one caveat, which is that you don't want to throw things out cavalierly, without considering whether they are worth repairing rather than getting rid of or replacing.

To do this, you need to look deep inside and see whether this thing is really that bad and whether it needs to bother you.

Because sometimes things bother us because they need to be fixed or changed, and sometimes they are fine in and of themselves but they bother us because they somehow trigger some old emotion, fear, or behavior pattern.

When that's the case, it's worth trying to heal and release that first, before making a big move.

Once you've cleared out any internal gunk, you’ll have the clarity and neutrality to be able to make your best decision.  

You can do this!

And if you have any doubt about your ability to let go of whatever is holding you back (or let go of whether something truly needs to bother you in the first place), please reach out to me. You owe it to yourself.

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